Why stealing your dead BFF's identity is wrong
Erica Sandberg is a prominent personal finance authority and author of "Expecting Money: The Essential Financial Plan for New and Growing Families." She writes "Opening Credits," a weekly reader Q&A column about issues for people who are new to credit, for CreditCards.com.
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Dear Opening Credits,
My best friend passed and her
husband, who I never got along with, was lost. He had absolutely no one (there
is a reason if you know what I mean). I helped him immensely with paying bills,
ordering his medicine, balancing his checkbook, etc.
Anyway, I was in a
financial management class doing a report on identity theft and used her Social
Security number, as well as my dad's and my 14-year-old daughter's and applied
for credit cards to test different credit card companies. To make a long story
short, my best friend's husband made passes at me, we fell out, and now he is
threatening on my daughter's Facebook page that he is going to put me in jail
for applying for a credit card in his deceased wife's name. Like I said, there
is a reason he is all alone.
The card was denied. I used his address for the
account and even put my name on the application as an additional holder. My question:
Is what I did really illegal? My daughter came to me crying that I was going to
jail. This guy is a real jerk.
It is surprising that you think
applying for a credit card in someone else's name could ever be legal, even
under the guise of academic research. Your motive may have been totally
innocent, but a credit issuer would have no way of knowing that. If they were
to discover what you've done, all they would see is that you applied for
accounts fraudulently. Yes, doing so is indeed a crime, and if they wish to
prosecute, it could result in major legal consequences for you.
You may raise your eyebrows in shock
that anyone hearing your story may not believe it, but your explanation really
does sound suspicious. It would seem that you're using a convoluted backstory
to justify your actions.
First, it just doesn't make sense that
you would offer to help someone you never liked to manage his financial
affairs, even because your friend died and he was in dire straits. It would be
too easy to take advantage of someone in the throes of bereavement this way,
because you would have access to his and her private identification
I presume that you did not ask this
man's permission to use his late spouse's data for your project before doing
it. Again, that raises my skeptical eyebrow. After all, if you did go to him with the
request, he at least would have had the opportunity to give you the go-ahead --
or more likely, the forget-about-it. Instead, you did it behind his back,
leading him to believe you were up to no good.
Regarding your coursework, it is also
implausible that testing a credit issuer's security system by trying to open
cards using other people's personal identification would be approved by a
legitimate college. If it were, I'd sure like to have a little chat with your
professor about such an assignment. It is neither ethically nor legally
acceptable, even if the company rejected the applications in the end.
As for the man taking the matter to
social networking sites and discussing it with anyone but you, I get his anger,
but agree that it was not the right thing to do. If he truly thought you
committed a crime, alerting the credit card issuers and the authorities would
have been more appropriate.
Clearly you're concerned about what can
happen to you now. The answer is that if anyone does choose to press
the issue and file a police report, you could end up in court. There, you'll
have to plead your case. If it goes any further, retaining an attorney would be advisable.
Your most important step now, however, is toapproach your child and father and come clean about using their information to apply for credit cards. They need to know the truth, whatever it may be.
See related: Can an executor use deceased's credit card?, Using a deceased spouse's plastic is illegal
Erica Sandberg is a nationally renowned personal finance authority. She’s host of several financial web shows, and a frequent guest for media outlets such as Fox, Forbes, Nightly Business Report and NPR. Erica previously was affiliated with Consumer Credit Counseling Service and was KRON-TV’s on-air credit expert. Her book, "Expecting Money: The Essential Financial Plan for New and Growing Families," was published in 2008 by Kaplan Press.
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Published: May 1, 2013
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