Ex-wife racks up debt on joint accounts
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Dear To Her Credit,
My sister was divorced seven or eight years ago. Per her
divorce agreement, she and her ex were supposed to get new credit in their own
names. He did so, but he did not take his name off the other cards. My sister
continued to use her card under the joint account, even changing the address to
her new apartment, where he never lived.
He went to get a loan and found out that she had defaulted
on a card in the amount of $1,800. He is not saying, due to legal reasons I
think, how many other cards are out there and the amounts. He has a lawyer and
is going to sue her for credit card fraud due to deception, because she had to
be receiving cards and bills in both of their names, and just using her own
card. He admits to be being stupid for not taking his name off himself, but
what she has done is still illegal.
What is her best course of action? She lives in New Jersey.
Also, will she be arrested or just served papers to appear in court?
You should also know that she is an alcoholic, has not had a
job for over five years, and is being supported by my mother who does not live
with her. -- Sue
This is where I tell your ex-brother-in-law -- and everyone
else who will listen -- to always
close credit cards and other accounts you hold with an ex. Do it the minute the
relationship is over. Check to make sure the accounts are closed, and check
your credit report at least once a year to make sure it's clean. Prevention is a
lot easier than a cure.
Your sister's ex knows that. He also knows he should have
caught on long before seven or eight years passed. We all do something stupid one
time or another -- this was his turn.
At this point, the injured party could very well take steps
against your sister. Pennsylvania attorney Shelli Freeland Eddie says,
"Most jurisdictions allow either party to pursue the other's failure to
comply with a material term in a divorce decree. These terms are usually found
in the Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA), and are addressed through a Motion
for Civil Contempt and Other Relief."
Because your sister failed to close the credit card account
and/or subsequently ran up more debt in the joint name of both parties, the
family court can order your sister to pay "damages" (the amount charged on the
card) and close the account. According to Eddie, if she does not do so, she
could face additional penalties, possibly including jail, depending on the
While this is going on between the divorce courts and the
parties to the divorce, the creditors still have a contract with both your
sister and her ex. The credit card company is not party to the divorce decree.
Eddie says, "The creditor has the legal right to
institute a collections action (civil law suit) against both parties to recover
any unpaid balances, including the injured ex-spouse. The credit card company
cannot be forced to hold harmless a party for failing to pay."
Your sister's ex has little to gain by taking your sister to
court, however, and possibly sending her to jail. If she had money, he could
sue her for the credit card balances, his attorney fees and possibly even
damages for injury to his credit score. He can hurt her, but at great expense
to himself. He has nothing to gain from suing an unemployed alcoholic, except
perhaps to satisfy spite.
The ex may be better off paying the balance or negotiating a
settlement. "In my family law practice experience, I have been
able to negotiate a reduced payment obligation on the part of the injured
ex-spouse, along with a subsequent agreement to remove that spouse from the
account," says Eddie. Of course, any balance negotiation will affect his credit score.
From your sister's perspective, her best course of action is
to cooperate with her ex. She should immediately close all joint accounts so no
more can be charged on them. She may be able to allay some of his anger and
avoid the possibility of being taken to court by promising to make good on the
$1,800 credit card bill as soon as she can.
Perhaps this crisis is the wake-up call your sister needed.
She can't live off Mom's money forever. It's time for her to get help with her
alcoholism. Only when she's on the road to recovery can she take control of the
rest of her life, including her career and finances.
See related: 7 big post-divorce money mistakes
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Published: November 1, 2013